Friends, ones we can depend on!

I felt like introducing you to the only friends I really have in this wretched city I live in.

Ladies first...

This is my wifey Cari. Cari and I were in this musical we both did my senior year of high school, starring me of course, Cari is the only girl who I allow to get me together on a regular basis. We decided to get married when I go straight in about fifthteen years. Cause who wants to be old and gay???? lol. Right now she's studying at some big design school in Chicago with plans to transfer to Syracuse University on a perfermance arts scholarship she won.

Then there's Ryan aka Ken Kardashian.

I love Ryan like a brother. We meet about a year ago, and every since then we've be unstoppable! lol. Ryan aka Ken is besides him being such a blonde, he's the most like me out of all my friends. Its often rumored that were together, not true.

Mr. Kiry

Kiry and I have known each other for a couple of years but, until recently I didn't really consider him a friend. He's a good kid, he always seems to have bad break-ups though. Umm, the only thing I can really say about Kiry is he's one of only people here that can dress. For someone who has lived here all of his life, his style falls outside of the typical.

And then there's my "trade" best friend Joe...

This picture makes me laugh....

To the untrained eye he gives "boy" and for the most part

he is but, Joe is a cunt lol j/k. He gives the boys what they want I guess. I tell him this all the time but, I don't see it.

lol Joe and I have been friends since 9th grade when we failed Mr. Rotondo's Math class, I mean everyone else was doing it. That's seven years though. He's the one friend I know I can always count on no matter what. I've told my deepest darkest secrets, and someone tells me his lol.

I have other friends here but, none that have been consistant as these four.

Next time I'll do the national friends list! lol

Christmas sucks! Random thinkings...

So Christmas was a few days ago, some friends and I went out to eat Christmas night due to the club we wanted to go to being closed. I had a date Christmas Eve which was really nice. I paid for the whole date but, it was my pleasure doing so. I picked him up from work and we went to the movies and to Denny's. I know, we tried to go to Applebee's but it was Christmas Eve and everything was closed, we had a good time and that's all that matters right?
If you've read my blog before you'd know I'm doing this celibacy thing and have been for the past 7, going on 8, months. So needles to say, I didn't get any Christmas "nookie" lol. Which I honestly think sucks! I mean I'm a good guy, I treat people with respect, I work, I go to school, I think I'm attractive and not to many people have disagreed. So why haven't I been able to find what I'm looking for.
I've been told I need to stop looking, and I stopped for awhile but, the expectation of someone just falling on my laps is ridiculous! I'm gay and gay guys don't just grow on gay trees, especially the good ones. *Checks BGC* Sigh...I'm about a week and a half away from giving up.

I realize something just now, almost all my post are about me being lonely...Wow...But it honestly consumes my every waking moment.

It's the holiday's and I should be cheerful, but I have no one to cheer for. Sometimes I think life would be easier if I were straight...

Forgive this post, it's not really focused.

*Loudly Sighs.

So, I've been sort of busy these past few weeks. I started working at Wal-Mart, been doing the school thing, and between those two I've really haven't had time for much else. I kind of have this situation though, there's this guy, who I've been talking to for a while now, just as friends, but I've gotten really close to him. I'm kind of infatuated with him at his point. I wake up and he's the first person I think about, he's the last person I text before I go to bed. The thing is, he lives hundreds of miles away(this is where I sigh). I've done the long distant relationship before, and it was cool and all, but I want something more. And, its not about the sex, at this point in my life, that's not what I want...for the most part. I mean it's been 7 months, a good piece would be nice...Okay it is about the sex, but not like what you think. I can't really explain it, but I want to have contact with someone. I long for it, I dream about it, I lust after it.

I don't know

I mean, that's not all I want from him. When I think about him it's not in a sexual way. I see us cuddled up watching a movie together, or in the club dancing together. At the park or whatever.

But why him?

He's different, he's honest for one thing, he has told me things that most people would have just took to the grave with them. I feel like his diary sometimes. Which I love.

He's been through a lot over the years.

I'm not 100% sure how he feels about me at this point. Which is mostly why I haven't opened up and told him about my feelings. I don't want to jeopardize the relationship we have right now.

I'll be 21 in a few months, and I haven't been able to sustain a relationship for more then a few months. Its not suppose to be that way, there never planned to end shortly. I see myself together with them for always. That's what I see for him. Yet, that's not what happens.

So I'm just gonna let the cards land where they may...I think that's how the saying goes...

Til we meet again...sigh...Dherek.

Obamas choice of evangelical pastor draws ire

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Hate Crimes...RIP Moses AKA Teish

This past weekend an acquaintance of mine was killed. The story is below, but sources tell me other things happened prior to this killing. It really just brings back a lot of crazy things that I've been trying to get over for the past year. I'm not really in the mood to blog right now, but I'll be updating this soon.

The Story: (Half of it anyway)

http://www.syracuse.com/news/index.ssf/2008/11/syracuse_man_was_killed_for_be.html

Cliche...or not.

Okay toady's election day, and of course I voted! Yes, it was my first time voting and it didn't hit to a few minutes ago, but it feels really good. This makes me want kids so I can tell my grandchildren what I did. That is assuming Obama wins. I wrote a couple of weeks ago about this whole political thing, I never published what I wrote. But I'll speak on it a little right now. I'm not the sharpest knife in the box when it comes to politics. I'm not 100% sure who stands for what, but I know who has my interest more so in mind. Its not really my fault that I'm not that savvy when it comes to politics, It just wasn't an interest of my parents, therefore it was never talked about. In my adult life, all two years, I have tried to gain some knowledge in politics. I feel this is the responsible thing to do since I will certainly be exercising my right.
I'm just excited, this is historical whether or not Obama wins. My first ever presidential vote was for a man of color...that's all I feel like talking about right now.

Smiles and rainclouds.

I'm not sure what the truth is anymore. I'm not sure if I'm happy or sad, tired or energized, lonely or content. I've gotten to a place where my mood is relatively stagnant. The high of my day is probably some random video on YouTube, or some shade thrown in the forums on bgc (sigh). But I'm not sad, I love who I am. I'm a beautiful person, both inside and out. I'm very open with people, I'm trusting and trustworthy I know my worth blah blah blah. It's just I'm ready to give that to someone, I'm ready to meet that person, that man.

I sorta feel like I've found him. He's someone I've known for a little while. We became friends when my ex and I were going through our little drama. He's always been a good supportive friend. The gagger this time is he's the one who's actually pursuing me. It's kind of weird, because I'm not use to that. Well, I'm not use to being pursued by someone I'm actually attracted to. It's new, It makes me giggle, I feel my cunt with this one. lol.

Aww, that put a smile on my face.

Wow, I just realized I have something to wake up for tomorrow.
Omg I haven't "touched" myself in two days. I must be sick....

Can I borrow some motivation?

What is going on with me lately? I just haven't really been motivated to do anything. It's getting to the point where I have to force myself out of bed in the morning to go to school. Its really sad for me to say this, but I feel like if I had someone to wake up to, it wouldn't be so difficult. My interest have been "sparked" a few times by a few individuals this past week. I promised myself I wouldn't pursue any of them though. I'm trying to get myself out of the habit of chasing everything I see. One of my finer qualities I believe, but it hasn't always(never) worked out for me in the dating arena. Celibacy is a bitch btw, thanks for asking.
About a month or so ago, I decided to grow my hair out. Right now its really curly and cute. I actually got a compliment on it today.

Hmm, lets see what else.

These past two days all I've been eating is trail mix(monster mix of course) and water. I'm definitely eating a big breakfast tomorrow morning.

Ugh, I have no life. Honestly guys, I sit at this computer all damn day.
Well I'm off to go get my "one a day" in and hit the sack. lmao, laters!

Who am I

Have you ever gotten to a place that was so deeply hidden that you didn't know who you were anymore? These past 5 months have been really hard on my mentality. I've been dealing with some betrayal, a little confusion. Some heartbreak, and anger. I use to be so full of life and energy. I use to want to dance endlessly, now you'd be lucky to even see me at a club or party. I want to regain my zeal for life, but how do I do that? How do I pick up where I left off, If I can't even remember where that was? It's time I do some deep soul searching, but I am deadly afraid of what I might find.

Sex...

...Is non-existent in the life of me. I haven't had a good piece in 5 and a half months. Thank baby Jesus for Internet porn lol. I guess I'm being celibate, I don't really like it but I appreciate it for what it is. My town just doesn't have the quality of men I'm looking for. I'm constantly being bombarded with guys who wanna hook up, and that's just not an interest of mine any longer. I'm growing surprisingly. Many people are surprised to find out that I was actually a virgin until I was 19 years old; and since then I've done somethings, and some people, that I'm not that proud of. But the thing that bothers me the most is how I let relationships and sex take over my thoughts. I've gotten to a point where I thought to truly and fully be happy I needed someone next to me in my bed. Its been hard to get back into the mind-frame of being happy with myself completely. Its been my journey these days. But I'm making strides.

Oh yeah, this thing.

I've been away for awhile. I'm just not in the writing mood I guess. But I'll indulge. Okay so about a week ago I heard an ad on the radio for this community college here in town. I was bored so I said what the hell, I'm going to go register. So I did all that good stuff, got in, of course, and decided I wanted to change my major. So I am now a medical assisting major. That's basically a bunch of crap for nursing major. I'm just doing a semester here because I don't want to be a lame, sitting around the house doing nothing with my life (explanation on why that would be below). blah blah blah. I've been thinking about doing the medical thing for a while now. I've always did well in health classes. I generally love taking care of people. Plus I think there's a lot of things a person can take outta being a nurse. The only thing is I'm not sure what type of nurse I want to be exactly.

I don't feel like posting any pictures. so just use your imagination.

Emotions

I lost someone very special to me. I know my flaws, i really do. I feel like nothing now. I'm the biggest flirt I know. and its not that I want these guys. I just find something nice to say about everyone. I always made you feel wanted right? But I didn't get that from you. It was like you were just going through the emotions. You were so cold sometimes. I feel alone. All I want is to feel wanted, and loved, and appreciated. Pick up the phone and call me, text me whatever! Just let me know you care. You were the first person I thought about when I woke up, and the last person I thought about when I went to sleep. Hopeless. Didn't I love you enough? wasn't my touch soft enough? I want to be angry with you. I know its weird, but how else do you mend a broken heart? How do you let go of those feelings of hopefullness for a better tomorrow with the one I loved. Damnit I Loved you! Why the fuck didn't you love me!? *exhales* Bullshit! if you loved me we would still be together! Why aren't you here? why am I alone? why do i still love you??

Leaky wounds.

Okay so last night my boyfriend and I finally decided to call it quits. Our relationship had been on the rocks for quite some time. We weren't communicating to each other like we should have been. My issue was he had no trust for me, boyfriends from his past caused him to have walls up when it came towards building a new relationship with someone, and me being who I am, this all around nice guy who takes time out to make everyone feel good, made it even more difficult for him to trust me. So I'll take my blame in us ending. Even though it was I who gave the ultimatum, us ending was not what I wanted. I loved him with every part of me that I could, it just wasn't enough for him I guess.

Ouch!

Well I had my surgery the other day, and after spending two days in the hospital i'm finally home. I can't say its a relief though, not yet, something happened during my hospital stay. It was something that was suppose to work out for my better, hopefully it still will. its just going to take a lot of prayer , and a lot more patience. I haven't really been saying much about my surgery, I had a large bone cyst in my humerus bone. This was the second surgery on my arm this summer, my third surgery of the summer, I have a 6" scar down the front of my arm now. yeah it sucks, so forgive my writing style at this moment, i know its kind of messy.

Lonely

Today... I feel kind of...lonely.

You know that lonely you feel when you think of someone you really like?

Yeah, that kind of lonely.

The lonely you know would go away if they would just look your way. "Hey..." you would say, "...how are you?", they would look you in your eyes and say "i'm better now". LOL you would do.

Writing this makes me lonely.

"Lonelyyy, Mister lonelyyyyy, I have no bodyyyy..."

Is the song that plays in my head. Almost like my mind is saying. Ah Ha, youuu suck! :P.

*sigh*

Its not everyday I feel this way.

I swear its not.

Just when he's not around.

..Hey..here he comes

......."Hey"

......."Hey"

......."How are you"

......." I'm cool"

...."Cool"

.......there he goes....

*exhales*

Lonely...

A Loving Soul

Today I had to get an ultra-sound done, and then I had to go to the hospital to go get some pre-testing done for a surgery I'm having tomorrow.

Last night I told my friend I had a crush on him, lets just say it didn't go as well as i hoped it would. lol. Oh well, I've moved on. But it did cause me to think of a few things, like whether or not I believe in soul mates. Honestly I don't think I do. Don't get me wrong, I believe there's someone for everyone,but the notion that there's a designated someone and only he will bring me eternal happiness, is just silly to me. I believe that if you want something with someone your going to have to work for it. Of course love shouldn't be forced, but I think its more giving then we allow it to be. Idk...

School Girl Crush.

Last night I went to a friends house. I kind of been crushing on this friend for a lil while. Its really strange, anyone who knows me will tell you I don't "crush" on dudes, If I like you, you know it. Ugh! when I was sitting on his couch he came out the kitchen with a condom wrapper in his hand, jokingly sayin he must of forgot to clean that one up. It was not cute. He talked about how the guy just gave him oral and thats all they did, but I couldn't help but think how much I wanted that to be me...I know, whore.

Man of Monday

Today's Man of Monday is:

Fonzworth Bentley.

Fonzworth Bentley, born Derek Watkins, is a hip hop artist, entertainer, and Fashion Designer, best known for being a personal assistant to P. Diddy. He is currently the host of the MTV's reality show From G's to Gents.

I have admired this Man of Monday for quite sometime now.
His style, his demeanor, his looks, ahhh his everything! Girls get
into it!

More...

Introductions

I'm a 20 year old Junior at Howard University. I'm a Psychology Major, but i've been really considering going into nursing. I usually get along with everyone. I can be quite at times, sometimes I'm a little childish, its a good type of childish tho. I laugh at myself sometimes.
I have are really good sense of humor. Love depresses me sometimes. I question my motives at times,
I believe myself to be a very genuine person, I just can be a little selfish when it comes to my wants. I have this unbelievable love towards everyone, I'm kinda Godly in that manner(is that blasphemy?). I'm very blunt when its needed. I stick up for the little guy at all cost. People underestimate me a lot, which is kind of sad I guess. I sometimes have image issues. I get used a lot by my 'friends', I would resent them for it, but deep inside I know it validates me. I don't have the ability to hide or mask my emotions. I very approachable. In my head the world revolves around me. Its kind of like the Truman show, I don't think I'm the only person who feels this way tho. I cry at movies. I want to be friends with everyone, but I don't think everyone wants to be friends with me. I'm not the most popular guy around, I don't have a thousand or so friends on myspace or any other site for that matter, but every person I come into contact with matters to me. Some days it might not seem that way, I do have bad days. I survived a tumor, yay me. I hate it when ppl worry, which is why I tend to carry a lot of heavy heavy issues on my own. I make it tho. Glory to God. OMG I love music! Brandy is my fav, I like Beyonce too, So please no shade Beyonce fans. lol. R&B and Neo-soul are what I mostly get into. I have a pretty good singing voice, I also enjoy acting. I use to be a club person, now i'm pretty much a home body. I sometime can be a porn addict lol, I'm seeing someone about that tho. :D,